I agree with you that there is a lot of bad male behavior. Women have historically been shut out of positions from which they could have behaved this way. I’m not sure I would trust the female genes for good behavior, although the maternal instinct and role directs positive emotions in the way of their own children, at least!
You are on to something, that men need to be part of any solution to make the world a better place, if only because they still control most of the levers of power.
I would say that women’s apparent good behavior, including the lack of corruption in the developing world, may have more to do with lack of opportunity. Women, to the extent that they command less power, may use what Jim Scott calls “weapons of the weak”—avoiding risky behavior, aiming to please, being agreeable. Women behave as “spaniels,” Mary Wollstonecraft wrote in A Vindication of the Rights of Women in 1792, if they are not able to assume positions of responsibility. Fortunately much has changed, and the gender wage gap has shrunk a great deal. In countries like the U.S., parents no longer socialize their daughters to succeed on the marriage market at the expense of their own opportunities. The remaining bit of the gender wage gap, though, is persistent because women are more likely than men to interrupt their careers for family work.
Professor of Political Science at Yale University